Toilet training is one of the biggest milestones in your child’s early development. But when you think about everything involved, it’s no wonder it takes time to master!
Your child needs to learn how to:
- Notice and understand the body signals that mean it’s time to go
- Tell the difference between wind, wee, poo, a tired tummy, or muscles after play
- Respond appropriately to those signals
- Get to the toilet or potty in time
- Pull down their pants
- Sit in the right place, wait, and stay focused
- Wee or poo in the toilet or potty
- Wipe and know what to do with the toilet paper
- Get dressed again
- Flush the toilet
- Wash and dry their hands
That’s a lot of steps for little ones to remember. And of course, blowing bubbles or chasing grasshoppers will always feel more fun than working through a long routine!
Why Rewards Can Help
Rewards, when used in the right way, can be an effective tool to support toilet training. They don’t have to be toys or lollies — a cheer, a high-five, or a silly dance can be just as powerful. These small moments of encouragement help reinforce your child’s learning and make the process more positive for everyone.
How to Use Rewards Effectively
Here are some helpful guidelines to keep in mind:
- Be patient. Toilet training takes time, and everyone (including parents!) may need encouragement.
- Praise participation. Focus on your child’s effort in the process, not only on whether they stay dry.
- Match rewards to behaviour. Reward steps like sitting on the toilet, trying for a wee, or washing hands — not just the final outcome.
- Avoid shame or punishment. Accidents are normal. Stay supportive and encouraging.
- Adapt as they progress. As your child masters the basics, you don’t need to reward every step. Shift your focus to their current challenges.
- Use a visual chart. A simple chart makes it easier for your child to remember the steps and see their progress.
Free Visual Toilet Training Chart
To make things easier, we’ve created a simple visual chart of the main toilet training steps. Enter your email to download it for free. Print it out, place it somewhere easy to see, decide on your reward system, and start encouraging your child step by step.
Need More Support?
Toilet training can feel overwhelming, but you don’t have to do it alone. Mars Clinic has launched a new online program designed to help you feel prepared and confident as you guide your child through this important milestone.
